For as long as I can remember, I have hated the mirror.
Besides the fact that I always focus on my flaws, the mirror it's self tells us how we look in each moment of life. There is also something that happens when I look in a mirror, I see myself through the hats I wear. When I put on a nice outfit, do my hair and make-up, and look the role of an author, I feel pretty good about myself. When I throw on the active gear and give a little flex, I feel okay about being a trainer. When my eyes show the exhaustion, deep circles and heavy bags, I'm reminded of the work I'm putting in as a mother to raise children to the best of my ability. But when I look in the mirror, I see myself in a way that others do not and have not. I remember being under the age of ten and being labeled by kids in my class. No matter what I did over the course of the next decade, it didn't matter. I was viewed as a one dimensional person and that was all I would ever be. That leaves a young person with two basic choices. One choice is to avoid everything related with the label. The other is to live that label so well that it's worth it. I just wish that when I was younger someone would have shown me the third option. It doesn't matter. Sure, that's easier said than done, but it is something I have been working on for the last few years of my life. We all have those voices in our heads that say, "Hold on, now. That is not you." Sometimes it's when we put on an outfit that is more current than we'd normally wear. Sometimes it's trying out something adventurous to do on the weekend. It might even be a new career path or side hustle. We listen to the voice because it's actually rational for us to listen to it. And yet, there will be times when we recognize that the voice is not even ours, it's the voice of people around us that have labeled us and put us in boxes that make us more one dimensional. Jump out of the box. Make your own box. Make a blanket fort. And when the others have something to say because you're not in the box they put you in, LAUGH! Enjoy it. Enjoy being a person that is full of surprises.
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