I write this post completely broken hearted.
I made a terrible mistake. A Facebook group posted a question, and I gave my opinion. I know, I know, a rookie mistake. I honestly did not expect my comment to breed what it did. The question posed was about breast feeding in public and covering up. My response was basically to know your surroundings. I gave a quick example of a time that caught my son and I off guard. So my point was basically, was if there might be someone around that isn't used to you pulling it out to feed your kid, give a little heads up. I didn't say that you had to cover up. Personally, I don't care. When it's hot out, I run in shorts and sports bras. I'm sure people see a belly they don't want to. My mindset is if you don't want to see it, don't look. The scenario I referenced was this: We were in the dance studio as we are every week. Same people. Same time. For the first time ever, one of the moms was breast feeding her child. Again, not a big deal. But honestly, I wasn't prepared. We had never seen her do it there before, and so weren't in the mindset that it could happen. Caleb was about to walk out of the studio to the waiting room. I left first and turned around after seeing her breast out (the child hadn't latched yet). I turned quickly to tell my son he could go out there, but heads up. He turned back around and said he would stay in the studio. No big deal. Again, my point was that she could have said, "head's up, I'm breast feeding if you don't want him to see." Or anything, really. Just give a warning. If this was a normal thing, we would have been ready and not thought twice, but again, first time out of all the months. Well, my comment received posts about me being a bad mom for not teaching him that she needs to do that. Uh, he's not a moron. He knows what she is doing. He just doesn't want to watch it. Okay? Another person told me that he sees more "titties and ass" in movies and TV. No. No, he doesn't. He watches what we allow him to watch, thank you. Then I was told that it didn't matter because he would be watching porn if he wasn't already. I could have spit nails. However, I kept my cool and told her that the accusation was horribly inappropriate and unnecessary. I was called oblivious. I was told repeatedly that it is out there and he will see it. My response was that it is my job to train him up in the way that he should go. I guide him, teach him, have conversations with him. And most importantly, I pray for him. I was told that it didn't matter what I did, he would watch. I made sure to let them know that they should not be speaking that over my son, I would not speak that over my son, and I will not speak it over anyone else's children. What an atrocious thing to say! Another person also chimed in that he would be watching porn because of smart phones and technology. At a certain point I agreed to disagree and told them we could meet up in 20 years to discuss our children's outcomes. Over and over again I was so frustrated by these people. I couldn't understand a group of "parents" that have decided the fate of all children is destruction. Hey, moms, there are drugs in the world. Your kids will do them. Hey, dads, there strip clubs, your kids will go there, and/or work there. Hey parents, there is gluttony, your children are guaranteed to become obese. And it hit me. They have all given up. Those parents have given up. Since there is evil in this world, it will reach our children and our children will succumb to it. Game over. And I was broken. I was broken by the fact that out of the parents that had to comment on my reply, they had all given up. There were willing to let their kids 1-be exposed to the evil, 2- accept it, and 3- move on. I stopped what I was doing and prayed. I prayed for the people giving up on their children. I prayed for their children. I prayed for my own. I choose to fight. I guess you probably already know that I'm a fighter by nature. But when it comes to my children, I will fight. I'm not saying that they will live in a bubble, Lord knows they don't. I will teach them right from wrong. I will openly discuss that there is evil in this world, and that it's our job to fight the evil. Sometimes we have to flee from the evil. At no point in my parenting have I decided to give up. Parents, if we want the evil to lessen, we need to fight. Please, fight.
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