How often have we heard the phrase, "There are two types of people in this world..." followed by whatever motivational mumbo jumbo the speaker was going for? There are those that are on time and those that are late. There are the people that exercise and the people that don't. There are readers or TV watchers. I have to say, I'm all these people. I pride myself in being on time, but sometimes life gets in the way. I love my exercise. I need it. But there are days I need a break. All I want is a good book, my hammock, and a "cool" autumn day (here in SC that's about 70 degrees!). I also want to watch my shows on Wednesday nights.
We like to lump people into groups, don't we? When we lump people into groups it gives us the opportunity to be surrounded by others that share our mind sight while also condemning the others for being so offensive to those around us in our higher order group. We seem to be in this constant state of agony when dealing with people. Nothing is ever good enough. And let's face it, that person is not changing. I think that is probably the worst judgment we leave on people. We believe that people can't change. Life experience teaches us that there needs to be a catastrophic event for people to change it seems. The always angry person gets cancer. They have two options. They can continue to be angry because now they really earn the right to be angry, or they can find the beauty in life that creates a more peaceful atmosphere. Vice versa: The always cheerful person gets cancer. They can stay cheerful knowing that each day is a blessing, or they can get angry because being cheerful got them cancer. I have seen that people say things like, "That's just the way I am" as an excuse to continue to do things they know are not the best practices. What do you mean, Jewel? So glad you asked! I have known a few people in my life that are perpetually late. Instead of setting an alarm earlier or planning better, they simply acknowledge that they are late and decide that they will never change it. Well, that is their choice after all. I see it often in the fitness world. People have the capability of doing the work that needs to be done, eating well, etc. and just don't like to so they quit. The waistline creeps back out. The fat accumulates under the chin. The pounds act like they were just on vacation but are happy to get back to normal life. The reason that people do not change is not because they can't. I wouldn't say that it is because they don't want to. People do not change because it is hard. This is the typical reason for diets not sticking. We want tasty, caloric, fried, sweetened, you name it, foods. Fruits and veggies are not every person's go to (exception: people like my daughter that will eat fruit all day if I let her). I've been pushing the mindset with my people lately while training that we get diamonds from coal only once pressure and fire are applied, and applied for a long time. Change takes a lot of doing what we do not naturally want to do. Another way to look at this idea would be the people that say, "either you have it or you don't." I immediately picture some talent agent in Hollywood in the 1950's saying this to some busty, blonde that can't act. Maybe you envision something else (I hope so). We look at someone and say that they just don't have what it takes. But when given the opportunity, that person can work and grow and become a person that does have what it takes. It may not come natural, but with work, it can happen. In my opinion there are three types of people in the world. There are the people that believe they are good enough right where they are and have no desire to change. There are the people that believe that they are not good enough and will never be so what's the point in trying (uh, for your job if you're perpetually late). And then there are the people that believe they are not good enough, and are willing to work to change. That third group of people are the ones I want to be around. I want to motivate, and be motivated by, the people that are always growing and changing for the better. If I ever believe I'm good enough at any one part of my life, I know that failure will come shortly after. If I believe I'm not good enough and know I can never get better, then I am a failure. Failure will always be the result of never trying. I will encounter failure when I'm trying to better myself as well. However, if my failure still lands me ahead of where I was previously, it is moving in the correct direction. Ever forward.
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